Have you ever been in a funk where you waste your whole day in a bad mood only to realize later how minor that “thing” was or how quickly that situation turned around? Whether it’s your job, your relationships, or Karen at the grocery store who pissed you off. So many times we allow situations, circumstances, or people to rob us of our peace and joy. But why is that? How can we remain positive in spite of a negative situation? Well, that’s what I’m here to discuss with you all today. The mindset shift that I had to make in order to be released from the chains that held me back from living a joyous, peace-filled life. That by no means says that I now have it all together. I am still embarking on this journey today and making the conscious decision daily to fix my mindset on the good and protect my joy and my peace.
Believe it or not, every day when you wake up, you CHOOSE your attitude. You choose your attitude during the good times and you choose your attitude during the hard times. You choose your perspective in which you see situations, circumstances, or people. Which in some cases could mean you seeing something minor as something major or vice versa. But either way, you’re either exaggerating something or minimizing it. Both of which rob you of seeing things as they really are. We must shift our mindset toward the direction of peace, optimism, understanding, and positivity. So today I’m sharing 6 tangible ways to jumpstart your journey to a more joyful and positive you. I pray that this post sets you free to live each of your days to the fullest. May you be present, joyful, positive, and filled with a light so bright for all to see.
1. Remember Hard Times Don’t Last Forever
Why is it that we think a bad day means a bad life? Or think a job that we don’t enjoy is the job we will have for the rest of our life? In life we will have many, MANY tough obstacles that we must go through. But I want you to remember, it won’t last forever. Yes, even that pain and heartache you may be experiencing. Although you don’t realize it now, it is actually strengthening you for your future. So that you can speak life into that little girl who may be experiencing the same thing as you but may feel that her pain is just too great to bear. Always remember that someone, somewhere is depending on you to win. You can rise up from anything. Nothing is permanent.
2. Maintain Proper Perspective
Don’t take it personal. Allow yourself time to really think and process the situations or circumstances that you face. Truly ask yourself, do these opinions of others add any value to my life? My career? Will giving energy to this situation help me maintain my spiritual wellbeing? Is this making me better or making me bitter? Honey, I’m going to tell you the same thing I heard from one of my Arbonne sideline sisters, if it doesn’t add value to your business, your belief, or your bank account, LET IT GO! You don’t and you can’t and you won’t be everything to everybody. Just keep your focus on God and allow him to lead you in the direction of peace and prosperity. Allow God’s word to be your roadmap to maintaining a clear and positive perspective.
3. Write 5 Things That You’re Grateful For Every Day
I talked about this before in my Ultimate Guide to Self Development post, so to read more about how I implement this you can refer to that post here. But this is key in keeping your focus fixed on the bigger picture and what’s most important to you in life. This truly helps you to keep an attitude of gratitude throughout your days.
4. Release the Baggage
Baggage only affects those who continue to hold on to it. DROP YOUR BAGGAGE! After all, it’s not even the load that weighs us down. It’s the way we carry it. Say this with me, I can’t control what happens TO me but I can control how I respond to it. Pray through your frustration, heartache, anger, etc. Learn how to forgive, let go and LET GOD! (SeePhilippians 4: 6-9) Holding on to those negative emotions will only rob you of valuable time that you will never get back. Ask yourself this, if today was the last day of my life, would I be happy with how I spent it? If the answer is no, take that as your sign that something probably needs to change.
5. Make Time Weekly For Things That Bring You Joy
Schedule something fun for you to do either alone or with loved ones. Give yourself something to look forward to each week. Oftentimes our days are filled with the hustle and bustle of things we HAVE to do rather than what we WANT to do. This can drag us into the negative cycle of feeling down or having a bad attitude. You have to remember to make time for YOU to reflect, reset, and do something that brings YOU peace and joy. It takes you away from the negative space you may be in whether at work, or at home, or just life in general, to a place of calmness, freedom, and GOOD vibes.
6. Trust God
Your reply to life shows your relationship with God. Trust that God is doing a work IN you so he can do a work THROUGH you. Trust that God is building His strength and character in you because he wants to grow your capacity to carry greater batons in the future. If the devil can’t take away your calling, he will take away your peace. So focus on building a strong mindset so that you already have your armor up ready to combat any negativity that comes your way. Life is short, don’t waste your time allowing negativity to limit you.
I’d like to end with a message that my fiancé sent to me last year when I found myself waist deep in such a negative space about life in general where I was allowing my circumstances to control me and rob me of my peace and joy. I saved his message in my notes because I knew I’d want to refer back to it one day. Here’s a snippet of what he had to say…
“You’re upset right now.. but think, you could have millions of dollars waiting to be handed to you tomorrow and don’t know it. So now you’ve ruined your whole day being upset about something that’s going to change tomorrow. Being upset, you missed out on valuable time that you’ll never get back because you’d rather lay around and sulk about something that’s on the way! Think of it as a package in the mail… Someone’s blessing may come to them through Amazon Prime next day shipping, while the same blessing is on its way to you via standard 6-8 day shipping. At the end of the day, your package is still coming. Would you be upset if now you knew that it was coming? If the Lord told you today, what & how many breakthroughs you had coming or that the money you’d generate would be exceedingly abundant, would you spend your time now upset and depressed that you’re not where you want to be right now? Being in a funk over something that’s going to change is a waste of time. You miss out on valuable time you could be enjoying with loved ones. Moments with people that you’ll never get the chance to create that same exact moment with ever again. In the literal moment there’s nothing you can change, so why be upset?”
WHEW! I remember that hit me like a ton of bricks when I read it. And boy was he right! (Well, besides the millions of dollars being handed to me because girl…I’m still waiting on that lol) But regardless of the example he used, you can plug in whatever scenario you may be going through and it still holds the same weight. Maybe you’re upset at how long you’ve been waiting on that promotion, so now every time you go to work you have an attitude. Or maybe you’re upset about something that someone said about you and now you’re holding onto it (baggage) and letting it steal your joy. Maybe you just went through a break up, or maybe it’s that pay raise that you’ve been asking for. Whatever it is for you, I share all this to say, it is time for you take back your peace and your joy. A positive you is a POWERFUL you. It enables you to make the best of every situation or circumstance that you face, which gives you power over whatever it is. So give these tips a try or even come up with your own! Remember, life is tough, but so are you! ♥
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